Many parents complain about their children's disciplinary difficulties, tantrums and non-compliance. But when it comes to mind that putting rules and limits would be the solution, oh, so it is better to think that the problem is not that big, and ... let it go. Then I put a limit.

When we think about education we can choose several lines. There are those who choose a more authoritarian line, in a model: “I have nothing to hear from you, you obey me and that's it”. And there are those who prefer to confuse authority with authoritarianism and take a “no limits” line.

Finding the middle ground: knowing how to listen and understand the child and at the same time setting the right limit is not easy. But it is possible.

SAYING IS NOT IMPORTANT. We cannot be afraid to say NO to our children, nor afraid to look old-fashioned, because that is what they will say to us. But what I realize is that most parents stop saying NO because SAYING DOESN'T WORK A LOT.

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Clear. Any imposed rules need to be observed. If you prohibit your child from talking to a friend, you will need to control this. If you determine that your child should take out the trash every day, this may be more work than taking it yourself. If you set the time to do your homework, someone in the family will have to be willing to be around to make it happen. And then, due to lack of time, availability or even patience, many parents prefer not to say NO.

Imagine a supermarket scene, in which your child grabs a jar of candy and starts making a fuss if you try to take it out. How many parents have not given in to the blackmailing of screams so as not to be ashamed? So it is. It is not ashamed but it does not educate the child.

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Saying it will not make you spend more time TODAY on your child's education, but in the future it will SAVE you hours of fights, hassles, school and disciplinary problems. And then, all your investment in attention, in saying NO today, will be worth it.

Stephen Covey said, I CREATE CHILDREN AND NOT GRASS. It doesn't matter if the grass in the garden you asked your child to take care of is still yellow and dirty. What matters is that he needs to learn that the responsibility for taking care of the grass is his, and the family can help him, but not do it for him. If you prefer to give up the given order and mow the house yourself, then you will be more concerned with creating the grass than your child.