TO EDUCATE A CHILD: PUT YOUR GOALS IN MIND AND ALWAYS GO BACK TO THE ROUTE

We are a family owned and operated business.

We live in a new world. Children are no longer afraid of anything.

We are aware that we need to change the old model of education, through pure and blind obedience, but we do not know how to do this. After all, if we ourselves were educated by pure and blind obedience, how will we know how to act differently and be a good role model for our children?

The school and the family that does not accompany this new world will not be able to be present in the lives of these children who now live in a new era.

Imagine what your adult child's world will be like. It certainly won't be the same today. The requirements will be different. So reflect, if we don't know where we're going to go, what difference does it make, for example, the school we choose for our children?

If we have in mind what we want for our children in the future, we need to ask ourselves: what kind of mother do I have to be to achieve this goal? What does my child need to learn? What school do we want for our children?

But if we don't know the future, how do we know what we want? Hence the conflicts of being parents.

Parents want their kids to have strong muscles but don't let them get on the chair and risk a jump. Every mother wants her child to be an intellectual, a doctor, a lawyer, but she forgets that for that she needs to sit by his side day by day and patiently follow the homework sent by the school. Mother wants her son to learn arts, music, dance, but does not want her to live to be a poet, musician, or clown ... Because she thinks ... oh it's okay for him to be a musician as long as he is also a good lawyer. A father is one who does not want his son to ever fight in traffic for fear that he may get involved in a fight with serious consequences, but whose heart cannot take the emotion of seeing him hurt by a colleague and has him hit back.

This is where we see the contradictions of being a parent. That is why we always need to remember: what is our goal as parents? What am I really doing to achieve this goal and not the one I don't want?

We need to ask a lot of help from God to enlighten us on the way to see the ambiguity of our hearts, to teach us to trust the people around us.

We have one goal in mind: the happiness of our children. So close your eyes to think about them for a moment and imagine your 20-year-old son:

What he is doing? Studying? Working? Where he lives? When do you see him? What does he say to you on the phone? How often? How does he treat his girlfriend or wife? Does he have a good job? Are you happy in this job? What hobby does he have? How does he take care of your heart, your mind, your body, does he already have a life mission?

Always think about having the goal in mind and go a little further: if I have defined my goal for my child's life, what is more important? The here and now or tomorrow? Be reactive or think about acting based on the principles we have?

YOU MUST DEFINE WHAT IS MOST IMPORTANT IN LIFE.

When there is a difficulty (the child screaming, the lesson not done, the delay for class, the fight with the classmate, the messy room) we have to stop and think “I am raising a child, he does not come ready from the factory, and I I pledged to educate you ”

And then, at that moment, we need to stop and think: my goal is that, to get there my route is this, and whenever something deviates from the route I will look for it again.

Let us not let ourselves be poisoned by the practical resolutions of the day-to-day - "let it go anyway", "see him son", "the fault is not my daughter" and we will see the ambiguity that strikes between what we want and what we do.

BELIEVE IN EDUCATION. SEEK PARTNERSHIP WITH YOUR CHILD'S EDUCATORS, WITH THE SCHOOL YOU CHOSEN, CREATE SYNERGY WITH THESE PEOPLE. THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT.

We are a family owned and operated business.

Acknowledge the choice you made for your children, and believe ... Believe, that only together will you be able to make your children achieve that dreamed future. Isolation, disunity, badly placed criticism bring sadness to everyone's hearts and damage the light that can guide them.

We are a family owned and operated business.

But being a father and mother is it, a little joy, a little suffering, a little enthusiasm, a little frustration, a little wisdom, and a million doubts. The important thing is to seek happiness and peace by sharing with everyone who participates in your child's life the search for a better world for them. The search for a healthy, just and principled society.

Good families - even the best - stay off the route 90 percent of the time! The secret is that they have a sense of direction. They know the “trail”. And they are always correcting the course, again and again. ”

Stephen Covey

Shirlei de Menezes Rico

Gran Leone College Director.