We live in a new world. Children are no longer afraid of anything. We are aware that we need to change education through pure and blind obedience, but we do not know and do not live in this new model, so how do I do it now?

The school and the family that do not accompany this new world will not be able to be present in the lives of these children. Let's imagine our children 20 years from now. If we don't know where we're going to go, what difference does it make, for example, the school we choose?

What do we want from our children in the future?

What does my child need to learn? And what don't you need to learn?

What will make him a successful person?

So, what school do we want for our children? If we don't know the future, how will we know what we want today?

Hence the conflicts of being a mother. How many contradictions a mother goes through in life. Mother wants ...

• ... Your child has strong muscles but does not want him to fall and hurt himself when he climbs into the chair and jumps.

• ... Your son is an intellectual, a doctor, a lawyer, but he forgets that for that he needs to sit by his side day by day and patiently follow the homework sent by the school

• ... your son learns arts, music, dance, but he doesn't want her to live as a poet, musician, or clown ... Because he thinks ... oh it's okay as long as he is also an architect.

• ... who never wants his son to fight in traffic for fear that he might get involved in a fight with serious consequences, but whose heart cannot stand the emotion of seeing him hurt by a colleague and has him beat back.

But what is our goal as parents? What am I really doing to achieve the goal I want for my child?

We need to see the ambiguity of our hearts, and seek partnerships and trust the people around us.

We have a goal in mind for our children: some think of happiness, others of success, others of peace, of family.

If I have defined my goal for my child's life, what is more important? The here and now or tomorrow? Then...

Be reactive or think about acting based on the principles and objectives we have?

It is necessary to define what is most important. Faced with the difficulty (the son screaming, the lesson not done, the delay for class, the fight with the colleague, the messy room) we have to stop and think “I am raising a child, he does not come ready from the factory, and I I committed to educating you.

And then we need to stop and think.

My goal is that, to get there my route is this, and whenever something deviates from the route I will look for it again.

Let us not let ourselves be poisoned by the practical resolutions of everyday life (leave it at that, send him see son, the culprit is not my daughter) and we will see the ambiguity that Beni between what we want and what we do.

Believe in education. Seek partnership with the school and professionals who can help you. Create synergy with the people around you who are part of your child's education. Acknowledge the choice you made for your children, and believe me. Believe me, there is no manual for being a mother and father, but there are ways that can help you achieve that dreamed future. Isolation, disunity, badly placed criticism bring sadness to our hearts and damage the light that can guide us.